“Can I start dating while separating?" People ask me this a lot.

Yes, you can. In Australia, you don’t need to wait for your divorce to start dating someone new.

But think carefully before you start. Separation can take a long time-out.  You might still be sorting out money or arrangements for your children. Dating is allowed but think about whether this is the right time for you and your family.

Your ex probably won’t love it

Even when your relationship is over, your ex may find it hard to see you date someone new.

Sometimes, things get tense when one person starts dating. Easy talks become arguments. Small issues get bigger.

This might not seem fair, but it happens a lot. You can’t control your ex’s feelings. Just know that dating someone new might upset them.

A new partner usually won’t change your property settlement

This is something a lot of people worry about, so let’s clear it up.

The law in Australia does not punish you for dating after you separate. Meeting someone new does not affect your property settlement directly.

But things can get tricky if you move in with a new partner or mix your money before your settlement is finished. Talk to your lawyer before you make big changes.

Your children may need more time than you do

This is the part people often don’t expect.

You might have started moving on before the break-up. Your children probably haven’t. Everything can still feel new to them.

Introducing a new partner too soon can make children upset or confused. There is no perfect time. Move slowly and watch how your children are coping.

Think before you post

Social media makes private things public.

Posting about a new relationship can upset your ex or kids. Think before you share anything online.

Waiting before you post can help avoid problems.

The real issue is usually timing, not the relationship

It’s rarely the new relationship that causes problems—it’s usually the timing.

Starting to date while you’re still sorting things with your ex can make things harder. Doing things too early can lead to more stress.

A few honest questions worth asking yourself

Before you start dating, ask yourself: Am I ready? How are my kids coping? Will this make things more stressful?

Only you can decide. But thinking first makes things easier.

This article is general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Everyone's situation is different, if you want to talk about your own situation contact us to arrange a consultation.